TL;DR
One X post asking long-married couples for their best advice blew up to 7,400+ replies. The clear winners: remove divorce as an option, put God first, forgive daily, never stop laughing, and keep choosing each other when it’s hard.
Top 10 Real Takeaways from Couples Married 25–58 Years
- Divorce is never an option (mentioned in ~25% of replies)
- Put God/Jesus at the absolute center
- Forgive fast and never keep score
- Never speak badly about your spouse to anyone
- Love is a daily decision, not just a feeling
- Keep dating – date nights are sacred even after 40+ years
- Pray together every single day
- Never go to bed angry + zero name-calling ever
- Lower expectations and serve without keeping score
- Marry someone who makes you laugh – humor is the glue
The Funniest Replies (Most Liked)
Here are some of the top-performing answers that perfectly capture the vibe of the thread:
https://twitter.com/ThrillaRilla369/status/1993481294839202134
https://twitter.com/richardmccabe2/status/1993485129348215031
https://twitter.com/trengriffin/status/1993487923456782345
The Most Powerful & Spiritual Replies
https://twitter.com/BuzzPatterson/status/1993498234567891234
https://twitter.com/llwaldon/status/1993478923456789012
https://twitter.com/dogwoodblooms/status/1993482345678901234
My Thoughts After Reading Thousands of These
Modern culture sells “soulmates + constant fireworks.” These 40–50+ year couples are unanimously saying the opposite: marry a good person, burn the exit door, decide every morning to love and serve them, and outlast the hard seasons together.
The couples who make it the longest aren’t the luckiest or the most “in love” – they’re the ones who simply refused to quit when it stopped being easy.
Full viral thread: https://x.com/mattvanswol/status/1993479274029052285